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08.23.2026
Last week, I wondered whether or not I'd be okay with the prospect of never losing my desire for the boy for the rest of my life. For a split second, it seemed like such a scary thought. Who would want to miss someone and not be able to see, hear from, or talk to them for the rest of her life? Maybe this fear is just a byproduct of a juvenile and overly sentimental mind, but at its core is a question very fundamental to the Christian life. What if I never get what I want in this life? And to elaborate, what if I never lose my desire for it? This isn't strictly limited to the boy. A good career, a stable life, a happy marriage, children, and the list goes on. None of these are bad in and of themselves. It's not wrong to want them. But Christ gives us a stern warning: "Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me." If I wanted the boy more than I want Christ, then my concern would, indeed, be valid. Not only would it be wrong morally, but a life spent missing a man who may or may not take you back is definitely a miserable one. Such a life warrants concern. But if Christ is my greatest desire, then it doesn't really matter. Yes, I could still want the boy and miss him and watch him move on with someone else, but as long as Christ is the object of my greatest desire, the sadness that comes from any other unmet desire wouldn't hold a candle to the joy of having Christ.
The bottom line is that I'm not afraid of not getting over the boy. I could miss him for the rest of my life and see him move on with a beautiful girl and still want him, but as long as Christ remains my greatest desire, I can still live a life of joy knowing that I have and will always have Christ.